So. I’m not technically engaged. I suppose technical would be the whole ‘down on one knee’ proposal. Not that I don’t think that will happen, but there’s rules and order that must be followed.
And so, instead, we’ve ‘talked’ about it. I want it. He wants it. (In his words – “Let’s get married.” We’ve jointly decided that it’s what we’re going to do. We’ve decided on roughly when. We’ve decided on roughly where. We’ve opened a joint bank account. We’ve been saving together. We’ve been living together for a year. We have a house together. And when the dust finishes settling, which it almost has, I’m sure he’ll officially “ask.” A few more months at the longest.
So until then, we’re keeping it quiet. Not telling family and friends. I’ve SORT of started to plan, but again, when it’s a big secret as it is, and not quite “official” yet, it’s just difficult to plan. So since I can’t share the progression of my wedding with friends and family yet, I thought I’d start sharing here online.
I’ve known him for 8 years, and I’ve never been this happy. Ever. He’s smart.. Brilliant, really, and he’s someone I can connect with on a level I’ve really never known before.
I thought I felt this way once before. I met someone, and less than a year later, was married. He wasn’t a bad man, he didn’t abuse me, he wasn’t an alcoholic, I don’t have any sad story. We just got married too fast, and I realized not only did I NOT know him, we didn’t have anything in common either. It was a mistake. It might sound like I’ve taken it lightly, but I haven’t.
But on the other hand, I realize I’m still ‘young’, and there’s a second chance for both of us out there, and I’ve just been fortunate enough to connect with a good friend from years past that has now turned into my best friend. It’s been a long road for both of us, and we found each other at just the right time.
More about him in my next post, and more about where I’ve come from as well.
I didn’t get to choose my dress for my first wedding. Here is what I have in mind for this wedding. Not only am I choosing my dress, I’m CHOOSING to get married, and we’re making the decisions and calling the shots. We’re getting married because of how we feel about each other, and how we compliment each other. Being in a relationship is always a work in progress, but at least this time around, I know I’m doing it for the right reasons.
My Dress:
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